Having Confidence No Matter What
Guys, let's be honest, I don't think anyone (me most of all) has mastered this whole confidence thing. So I'm not writing this out of my own experience of having this amazing confidence, but what I have observed from other people and what I have learned as someone who grew up being not confident in herself.
Well, I think everyone struggles or has struggled with confidence issues at one point or two in their lives. If you haven't, WHAT IS YOUR SECRET AND HOW DO YOU EVEN.
I want to address two parts of confidence in yourself.
1. Having confidence in what you are capable of. Which brings me to this quote:
"The quickest way to acquire self confidence is to do exactly what you are afraid to do."-Anonymous
I LOVE this quote because when I read it, I automatically thought of all the times in my life I wanted to do something, but I was too afraid of either rejection or it not working out or something. Our biggest problem, the reason why we aren't confident in doing something, is because we are afraid. Afraid of what someone will think, afraid of being judged. Afraid.
2. Having confidence in the way you look!
Let me tell you some mind blowing facts about babies. Babies are not self-conscious. This morning I took my little baby sister to my bedroom mirror. She then noticed her own reflection and she wouldn't stop looking at it! She was absolutely in love with herself and she even started smiling at that reflection!
Why don't we do that? How old are we when we start seeing those imperfections? Our parents and family and friends tell us we are beautiful or cute when we are younger but then when we grow up, we become another face in the crowd. Or maybe people want to stop sounding weird by calling us beautiful because they know that we can understand them. Whatever it may be, I'm curious as to why we stop seeing ourselves the way we used to when we were babies...could it be what we see today in the world as "pretty" or "normal".
Another one of biggest things I have learned from people who are confident, is that when you are confident, you genuinely listen to what people say, but you can still make a sound decision for yourself. You don't care what others think...well, not like you don't care. You do, but you don't dwell on it. You know what you want, and you are still kind about it. This is the one I need to work on the most, but hey, I am confident I can be better at it!
Confidence is putting faith in something, whether the outcome be good or bad. Well, why would you want to put faith into something bad, Alicia? Well, you aren't. You are putting faith in the good, but accepting the outcome if it is bad and RUNNING WITH IT. How many times have you heard the phrase, "When life makes you lemons, make lemonade." This is a sign of a confidence person. Someone who is willing to make lemonade out of every situation! If something doesn't work out, Try again! Over and over and don't get discouraged!
The same baby sister I told you about earlier is clearly a genius when it comes to this confidence thing because she has also taught me another principle. I was watching her take her first steps to her mom, and she just took them, trusting my mom would catch her if she fell, But there were some times that my mom didn't catch her and Ploop! She fell on her butt many times! But that circumstance didn't change my sister's desire or motivation to keep walking. Imagine, if we stopped trying to walk every time we fell? That's ridiculous. But if we accept our legs giving out on us physically in this natural state of childhood, why can't we accept life giving out on us on occasion with the state we are in now?
Okay, if you aren't confident, that's okay! It might be a life-long battle! But just to cheer you up (and possibly myself too) you don't have to be someone else. Be yourself, say what you mean. Don't surround yourself with the bad. That doesn't help the confidence. Kick fear out of the way and just own it! Own your awesomeness! Own your mistakes too! It's totally okay to do that.
Remember there are at least 2 people that love you for you. Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. And they hate it when you get down on yourself because they see the potential that is inside of you that you don't see yet. So keep smiling and believe in yourself! You can!
Love Alicia
Well, I think everyone struggles or has struggled with confidence issues at one point or two in their lives. If you haven't, WHAT IS YOUR SECRET AND HOW DO YOU EVEN.
I want to address two parts of confidence in yourself.
1. Having confidence in what you are capable of. Which brings me to this quote:
"The quickest way to acquire self confidence is to do exactly what you are afraid to do."-Anonymous
I LOVE this quote because when I read it, I automatically thought of all the times in my life I wanted to do something, but I was too afraid of either rejection or it not working out or something. Our biggest problem, the reason why we aren't confident in doing something, is because we are afraid. Afraid of what someone will think, afraid of being judged. Afraid.
2. Having confidence in the way you look!
Let me tell you some mind blowing facts about babies. Babies are not self-conscious. This morning I took my little baby sister to my bedroom mirror. She then noticed her own reflection and she wouldn't stop looking at it! She was absolutely in love with herself and she even started smiling at that reflection!
Why don't we do that? How old are we when we start seeing those imperfections? Our parents and family and friends tell us we are beautiful or cute when we are younger but then when we grow up, we become another face in the crowd. Or maybe people want to stop sounding weird by calling us beautiful because they know that we can understand them. Whatever it may be, I'm curious as to why we stop seeing ourselves the way we used to when we were babies...could it be what we see today in the world as "pretty" or "normal".
Another one of biggest things I have learned from people who are confident, is that when you are confident, you genuinely listen to what people say, but you can still make a sound decision for yourself. You don't care what others think...well, not like you don't care. You do, but you don't dwell on it. You know what you want, and you are still kind about it. This is the one I need to work on the most, but hey, I am confident I can be better at it!
Confidence is putting faith in something, whether the outcome be good or bad. Well, why would you want to put faith into something bad, Alicia? Well, you aren't. You are putting faith in the good, but accepting the outcome if it is bad and RUNNING WITH IT. How many times have you heard the phrase, "When life makes you lemons, make lemonade." This is a sign of a confidence person. Someone who is willing to make lemonade out of every situation! If something doesn't work out, Try again! Over and over and don't get discouraged!
The same baby sister I told you about earlier is clearly a genius when it comes to this confidence thing because she has also taught me another principle. I was watching her take her first steps to her mom, and she just took them, trusting my mom would catch her if she fell, But there were some times that my mom didn't catch her and Ploop! She fell on her butt many times! But that circumstance didn't change my sister's desire or motivation to keep walking. Imagine, if we stopped trying to walk every time we fell? That's ridiculous. But if we accept our legs giving out on us physically in this natural state of childhood, why can't we accept life giving out on us on occasion with the state we are in now?
Okay, if you aren't confident, that's okay! It might be a life-long battle! But just to cheer you up (and possibly myself too) you don't have to be someone else. Be yourself, say what you mean. Don't surround yourself with the bad. That doesn't help the confidence. Kick fear out of the way and just own it! Own your awesomeness! Own your mistakes too! It's totally okay to do that.
Remember there are at least 2 people that love you for you. Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. And they hate it when you get down on yourself because they see the potential that is inside of you that you don't see yet. So keep smiling and believe in yourself! You can!
Love Alicia
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